Surfing Alone
Yesterday I paddled out alone at Sand Spit, a surf break in our region that is decidedly wild. It's in a park called Montana de Oro. The...
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The Benefits of Sports
I have said before that with my children, I'm glad I cast a wide net of activities at them--that they have dabbled in everything from...
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6 days ago2 min read
Learning to Relax
One of the most challenging aspects of menopause I have experienced is sensitivity to temperature. A few years ago I would notice myself...
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Oct 211 min read
To My 14-Year-old Self
Today was so beautiful with my son Diego and my spouse, driving up into the mountains toward Mount Baker and then taking a really...
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Oct 202 min read
May I tell you about today?
Derek and I flew to Seattle last night to come see our little freshman, Diego, at Western Washington University in Bellingham where we...
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Oct 174 min read
Girl Talk: Ablation, Menopause, Estrogen, and Long Marriage
In my early 40s, I went to my gynecologist and basically asked for a hysterectomy. I had had two babies, my sons, and did not want more...
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Oct 162 min read
Bridge over troubled waters
Is self-doubt one word or two? What about self-loathing? Two words or one? Today was rough. The details don't matter. I am not a unique...
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Oct 153 min read
El Cotidiano
So after yesterday's blog post, I woke up thinking about the Cotidiano. It's a word I learned in Spanish before I learned it in English....
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Oct 143 min read
I have to be careful
Because my brain feeds me a lot of ideas and they pull at me. But to accomplish anything meaningful, I have found that I really need to...
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Oct 133 min read
There are things that you can do as a parent that pay dividends. Here's one.
It started with swim lessons. I took the boys a few times a week. That presupposes that as a parent you can do that. My parents could...
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Oct 123 min read
Political Polarization Fucking Sucks
Today I texted with a family member about Trump. He initiated the conversation by telling me about Elon Musk's PAC, which I already know...
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Oct 94 min read
The Possibility of the Mask Lifting
Why should the world be over-wise, In counting all our tears and sighs? Nay, let them only see us, while We wear the mask. --Paul...
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Oct 73 min read
shut up
When I left Cal Poly in 2021, I was tired of language, of the written word. I was tired of evaluating writing. I had been teaching...
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Oct 62 min read
Everything is OK
What a relief to know that after the last three years of not teaching, I could prepare a talk and not shake upon delivering it, that I...
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Oct 51 min read
In about 10 hours I'm teaching for the first time in three years
This should not be a big deal, right? I have something to offer. People are generous and will not throw old, over-ripe tomatoes at me,...
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Oct 42 min read
What do you think about dreams?
I have paid attention to my dreams since I was a child. When I turned 21, my birthday present to myself was a weekend dream seminar in...
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Oct 21 min read
Mentors All Around You
It's true. They might not be offering pay; you might have to apprentice with them for free even... but mentors are all around you. They...
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Oct 12 min read
This dude taught me to present and teach with more confidence
For almost two decades, I stood in front of a classroom trying to convey a message. I was always so nervous, so self-doubting. And then,...
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Oct 12 min read
"Attention is a creative act"
That is a quote from Iain McGilchrist, a British psychiatrist, literary scholar, philosopher and neuroscientist--what a lovely...
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Sep 292 min read
Hanging out with Jungians
I just spent the last two days at the Pacifica Graduate Institute hanging out with people who worship Jung. There are less worthy...
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